The reticence of some people becomes suffocating, even irritating…

In one of my earlier posts, I had expressed an opinion that it requires skill to make people express themselves in front of you, especially those people who take their own sweet time to open up and get friendly. Since you have been gifted with a rare ability to make people speak their minds out to you, the onus is on you to do it, and you should enjoy doing it. I have tried all my life to do it, but gosh, sometimes it drives the hell out of me, and I feel like “To hell with them, I am not talking to those guys again in my life.”

As a person who expresses his feelings so naturally and effectively, and who tries to make people his own quickly, I feel so disgusted, irritated and angry when I see people persistently being unnecessarily formal in their interactions in personal relationships. Mind you, this is in spite of months of effort put in through light-hearted and jovial conversations so that they are comfortable with you. Just like they are getting to know me first time, I am also doing the same, but there are many people who just dump the responsibility of creating camaraderie to the other. The most they can do is smile when they see you in front of them. Is that enough to start a friendship of a lifetime? It is not unfortunately.

It is these fellows, most of who are well educated and “modern”, who do not make even an inch of effort to make you comfortable. The funny thing is, that your elders will always blame you for the fact that you have not been able to become friendly. This just prompts for all hell to break loose, especially if all good work has come from your side. I feel that there should be a limit of providing them with the ease and comfort of talking, and sometimes they should be made to feel uncomfortable as well. In that case they would get a taste of their own medicine. It should serve them well. Sometimes people are so used to getting undue importance that they are totally oblivious to their responsibilities. I think it is time to teach them a lesson or two in man management skills.