Many of you would have heard the lines of Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, when SRK says that “Pyaar dosti hai”, which means that “Love is nothing but the culmination of an extreme form of friendship.” This is so very true.
When they do fall in love, the first thing that most couples forget is the aspect of friendship in their relationship. Even I forget it sometimes. I have seen, and also heard that the best of couples, who stay together for 50 years or more or till one of them dies, are also the best of friends. There is no tension, tremendous honesty, no hiding of facts and lots of happiness around. Romance is an obvious corollary to such an ambience. Unfortunately what many couples do is exactly the opposite. They strive for romance, physical intimacy and fulfilling of expectations. That is why there are so many differences of opinion everywhere.
When I do speak to Kuhu just as my best friend, which she is anyway, I enjoy it tremendously. It gives me a feeling of completeness; it gives me a belief that nothing can ever go wrong between the two of us. We crack jokes like hell, we laugh, sometimes we also discuss serious issues, but the common factor is we completely open up to each other. However, whenever expectations take precedence over friendship, romance is lost in the process. There are heartbreaks, arguments and eventually protracted grief.
One would be amazed by the fact that a couple can get so close to each other emotionally if they compliment their romance by unconditional friendship also. I have witnessed this in my own relationship many a time. Today morning was one such instance when we talked about a hundred different topics, starting from films, family to my office and ultimately ourselves. We laughed all the way through. Such mornings make my day. This is the secret of happy companionship.
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