Silence has always been a very effective art in any conversation. The message that the reticence of silence can portray can sometimes not be expressed by a thousand words. Our ability to remain silent showcases our ability to listen intensely on what is being said. It is not only advisable to say the right things at the right place, but equally so to leave the wrong thing unsaid at the most tempting place, and at a most sensitive moment. I believe Kuhu does this wonderfully well, and I have a lot to learn from her in this aspect, even though, I take pride in my communication skills overall.
Ironically, I believe so at least, that to communicate well through your silence, you have to have great skills of expression. People should read your mind from your body language, smile, deep breaths and eyes. Although this may be done in many spheres of life, I have experienced the power of silence in romance. In fact, when Kuhu and I have gone out together in the past, I used to hardly speak most of the time, and used my silence to communicate.
Since she had never seen me in such sedate moods before, she used to opine that “Shamne thakle tumi to kothai bolo na, khali chup kore thako, tomar joto kotha shob phonei shuni ami”.
This was a mockery in very good humour which meant that “When we are together, you hardly speak to me, although you are a chatterbox on the phone.”
Whenever she has said like this I have always replied that “Dear, during those times it is my mind which speaks, and not my mouth.”
However it does not mean that she cannot understand my deepest feelings during those quiet times. My silence tells her all, because one gaze into the eyes of someone we love so deeply speaks more intensely to the heart than a million poetic verses.
Generally speaking, silence is a powerful sword indeed. We can use silence to understand people around us. However, when we are accustomed to noise, we mistake silence for a lack of understanding instead of the depth of understanding it reveals. It is not necessary that we have to babble a whole lot of crap to make our point every time, but keeping one’s mouth shut for a while also helps a lot. I have always seen that the most successful people know how to practice effective silence. After all, most of us know how to say nothing, but very few of us know how to make our silence speak louder.
Very well expressed !
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