Emotional Dependence ruins an individual……….

There are many people living in this world who start playing with your mind when you become emotionally dependent on them. That is the hard and bitter truth of today, the ruthless 21st century. It was always prevalent before, but nowadays, it is even more protuberant. There is nothing more sordid than emotional dependency, which can befall you, especially if that person, on whom you are emotionally dependent, is not either of your parents or siblings. Some day or the other, they will tear you apart emotionally. You would end up becoming a psychic patient unless you can save yourself.

That is why the Bhagwad Gita advises us not to expect anything from anybody, to be unattached. However, we are lesser mortals and it is our natural tendency to depend on others especially for our emotional stability and, to a lesser extent up to a certain age, for our financial stability. You expect attention, affection, love and time from people on whom you are emotionally dependent, which in most cases they fail to provide up to your expectations. When they spurn you, you mope, you are hurt, you feel cheated, you are gutted in disgust, and there is anger simmering within you. Sometimes, when you get the opportunity, you shout, abuse and swear at him/her, but in response, he/she just enjoys your plight, and feels proud that you are bondage to his/her whims and wishes. To be frank, you feel like knocking the head of that person off, which of course you literally cannot do, because in that case, you would be at the mercy of the laws of the land. You are forced into restraint.

At the end of it all, we are human beings. We have emotions. We need a companion at some point in our life. We want to love him/her. In doing so, we fail to recognize the fine line between love and emotional dependence. We expect. We suffer. We lose self-control. Ultimately we end up doing something very rash and face the consequences. This is all because we are not strong enough mentally. Self-counseling is the best therapy at such times, which would help you to transform inner pain into will power. This is also education, at its most ruthless, that life provides you.