It is very nice indeed to get yourself totally committed to your love. You court your fiancée or lover, you give her surprises, you cajole her when required or even when it is not required, you exchange sweet nothings over phone or sms and you tend to make cozy promises for the future. However, many people, especially men, tend to lose their dignity and self respect, to a large extent, in the process.
I know of a person who has gone through this phenomenon. Before he fell in love, he was very dignified, very jovial, never asked or expected a single thing from people around, always held his head high, was tough under all circumstances, was independent and was humble. However, once the lady came into his life, he began to expect love and care. The guy who used to enjoy his free time alone suddenly started to get irritated, even if there was a ten-minute delay in an sms reply. Passing out time turned out to be a big challenge. Tempers started flying thick and fast. Insecurities about their relationship started to creep in to him.
One fine day, when both of them had a difference of opinion, the girl started shouting at him saying, “You were the one who was MORE interested in continuing with the relationship, not I. You took my mobile number so that we could talk, I did not take yours. You lack richness of character and confidence, in both our relationship as well as in yourself. I am confident of my strengths, but you are not. That is why you shout when I challenge you. You cannot live without me.” These words opened up his eyes. He woke up into a completely new realization of his lost dignity, and self esteem.
Probably the lady was right. The man forgot that he had abandoned his own strengths, which made him stand up on his own feet, which made him a champion over so many years, in the madness of love. He was a great believer in God. He did not stop loving his ladylove after that incident, but he felt that the hurt and the ignominy of those words were God’s way of arousing realization in his soul. He was thankful that he had been able to rediscover his true self, which had made the lady like him in the first place.
The moral of the story is irrespective of how deeply you fall in love, you should never lose your dignity and make yourself cheap in front of your lady. She would never respect a man who would always be willing to beg for her love, instead of commanding it. This is especially true for a man who has been a role model in the past and achieved so much. They do not ever deserve such disrespect from the opposite sex.
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